Trish21 — I SO agree with you – the system cannot help us and that is beyond frustrating. But, remember – sociopaths are very good — and very practiced — at what they do. They know the tricks to NOT getting caught. They understand that a love-struck individual won’t be keeping notes, or saving receipts or emails, or even researching them on the internet. Love blinds the victim to normal wariness and caution. And the sociopath moves quickly to create those emotions. So, paper trails are rare, especially at first. They know the tricks to removing evidence, such as asking for “loans” in cash, or playing the Poor Pitiful Me or the Dire Emergency cards, appealing to the victims inherent trust and kindness, gaslighting, and erasing electronic evidence. By the time the victim realizes he or she has become a victim, there is very little tangible evidence. Sadly, you can’t sue someone for making you feel like a fool. Those few who are sued can always plead “criminal defense of diminished responsibility” by claiming they have a mental illness – psychopathy! Nope – not fair. Not just, Not right. But sadly, in our legal system, justifiable. So what can you do? Lick your wounds, let go of the anger and grief and frustration and, by any means possible, get on with your life. Don’t give them the power of controlling your emotions — that is what they feed on. Keep posting, keep reading the stories and advice here, and keep working on yourself. I wish you peace.

Escapefor1 I was not looking for an explanation of this practice, I want to know how a person can be sure that these “spirit guides” are benevolent? If there is an unseen world of spirits, why would anyone want to mess with them, especially if you have no idea what these spirits really are? How does a person know that he or she is not opening a door that he or she cannot close? Narcissists are deceptive, and so are evil spirits. HOw do you know that for exchange of information ( which cannot be verified as truth) does not require some sort of sacrifice in a person’s life? Either present or in the future?

唐娜听了我的故事，然后能够帮助我感觉到，在经历了与一个反社会者的关系后，我并没有疯。她理解这种情况，以前也曾经历过这种情况，目前还没有做出任何判断。给了我一些有用的建议，让我可以重新组合……谢谢唐娜

答复Emilie 18

天哪，Emilie–；多么可怕的故事啊。我为你和你的家人所经历的一切感到抱歉，但很高兴你的儿子终于得以逃脱

我同情你的问题——与病态说谎者、使用者和虐待者打交道是可怕的，当涉及到孩子时，情况更糟；我儿子嫁给了一个符合所有症状的女人——她撒谎、操纵、虐待他和他们的孩子，并且是一个严重的吸毒者；她母亲总是站在她的一边，保护她。这位母亲说服我的儿子娶了她的女儿，告诉他，她被“许诺”给了一个比她大30岁的埃及男人——这是她的家族传统，她一满16岁就会被运往海外。我当时17岁的儿子相信了她的话，他们违背我的意愿秘密结婚，而且在另一个允许未成年人结婚的州——母亲伪造了我的签名！事实证明，这家人甚至不是埃及人——但我们直到几年后才发现这一点。这位母亲只是不想再和一个叛逆的、吸毒成瘾的青少年打交道，她认为我的家庭是稳定的、正常的（我们是）。

这个女孩从一开始就很古怪——非常不安全，偏执，对每个人都充满怀疑。直到几年后，我才知道她吸毒的事，因为她极力想让我远离我的儿子。当他们的女儿出生时，她是清醒的，但很快又复发了——那时我终于意识到她有多可怕。她什么事都会当着我的面撒谎。她抱怨慢性疼痛，让我带她去看多个医生，直到最后一个医生把我带到一边，并说她因为“吸毒者”而被禁止。我孙儿出生后的第一个圣诞节，我带她出去玩，在我儿子失业期间，我花了几百美元买礼物。她说她想“；给他们两个惊喜；从我儿子那里得知，他根本不知道这些礼物——她当天就把它们换成了现金。我推荐她为一位朋友做一份打扫房间的工作，她后来打电话告诉我，她生病的父亲的奥克康定药片都不见了。当我与她对质时，她否认偷了它们；当我来拜访时，我会注意到钱包里的现金不见了——她再次否认了一切。他赚了很多钱，但总是超过到期通知，要求借钱。她负责账单，并声称自己已经支付了账单。但是没有——这都是因为她现在吸毒成瘾。

当我儿子终于受够了并把她踢出去时，真正的麻烦开始了——每当他有女儿监护权的时候，她就在家里反复做CPS，还有一次是在我照看孩子的时候。当这不起作用时，她打电话给警察指控他殴打她。他在监狱里呆了一个晚上，但在警察看到所有的瘀伤都在他身上，没有一处在她身上后，他们释放了他。他的眼睛被打青，肋骨骨折。当她在监护权日带走女儿时，她永远不会按时归还——总是向他要钱，“如果他想再见到她”。这名21/2岁的孩子几天后会满身瘀伤和精神创伤回到家中。结果发现她把她藏在了毒品屋天知道她感冒时发生了什么。（我的孙女因为残余创伤接受了多年的治疗）。我们多次报警，但他们什么也没做。

最后，我儿子决定消失以保护他的孩子。他在夜深人静的时候离开了小镇，带着他能带的东西——我告诉他在安全之前不要告诉我他们在哪里。她拒绝签署离婚文件，半夜出现在偷车的陌生男子面前，威胁着我和我的家人，我不想在他离开时受到惩罚。两周后，当我外出时，她用枪威胁我的管家，要求知道我在哪里，并说她要杀了我，然后在全城范围内进行了一场由毒品引发的暴乱，这引起了当地的新闻——闯入房屋寻找毒品，用枪指着人并偷走他们的汽车，全城高速追击，两小时对峙。她最终在监狱里呆了17年；我的儿子花了4年时间才得到法官的批准离婚并获得完全监护权。

因此，我间接地了解了与混乱的人打交道时的痛苦、戏剧性、恐怖、恐惧和挫折。感谢您分享您的故事——您是对的——除非有更多的人听到这些真实故事，否则它将继续发生；很抱歉，您仍然感受到了影响；只有他当时的妻子被判重罪入狱，我的儿子才得以过上幸福而成功的生活

杰罗姆21和8211；多么可怕的故事啊。谢谢分享。祝你一切顺利，这样你才能坚强地保护你的孩子

In reply to fakeradaron.

Someone getting psychic messages, including through tarot, doesn’t control outcomes with this info. At best, knowing more what is likely vs not can help skew probabilities. We all have free will and so do all those interacting with us. It’s like the difference between seeing road signs and having a map vs driving in the dark without those things. Sometimes I am able to make a better decision and that helps. Other times, things have happened or are happening without my knowledge and I need to know for some personal reason. In my case, often this reason is personal protection against narcissists and others who might wish me ill. In one non-narcissist case, it was a misunderstanding which we cleared up after I got the message from tarot, clarified by a psychic, and approached the person involved. Once we had our clarifying talk, the problem stoped immediately. And in some cases, events beyond even the spirit guides’ control will happen. We aren’t able to control these things through our reactions. Like I was warned about the global pandemic’s impact on me in a way that I initially did not correctly interpret — two months before I was one of the first to get COVID in my area, and before I had even read about the then-epidemic in Wuhan.
So hearing psychic readings does not make us over controlling. But it can help when someone else is trying to overcontrol us.